Dealing with anger

Article: Dealing with Anger

I have an Aunty,
My aunty loves eating brinjal,
I hate eating brinjal,
So I hate my Aunty.

What I did is I mixed my aunty with brinjal.
I must understand that my aunty is not brinjal. (lol)

Similarly,

Ganpat is my peon,
Ganpat comes late to office,
I do not like people coming late,
I do not like Ganpat.

I have mixed Ganpat as a person with his -ve quality.

My boss is nagging,

I do not like nagging,

I hate my boss.

Friends, what we do is confuse ourself and mix people and their -ve qualities.

Seperate people from their qualities and love people unconditionally.

Lets work on dealing with the -ve quality.

Also, understand, that by you getting angry, -ve qualities may not always improve.

Why people get angry is they have high expectations from others, high standards of performance and when this does not match, they flare up.

Let me ask you one simple question,

By you getting angry,

"CAN A DONKEY BECOME A HORSE?"

Its sheer IMPOSSIBLE, that a donkey become a horse, yes, your blood pressure may rise, and you may develop ulcers in the process.

Although you can not make a Donkey a Horse, but you can always make a Donkey a Better Donkey. Infact, if you just look at the good and +ve quality of the donkey, and acknowledge it, there are many chances that the donkey will be a "better donkey".

Lets see how we can manage anger, now: Some tips..

Stop REACTING .....! Instead; PAUSE - THINK & then ACT (PROACTIVE)

List five things which make you angry, be specific, then rank them from 1 to 5, using 1 for the one which angers you most.

Next to each one write down the main reason why it makes you angry. (People, Situations, Events basically the Trigger )

Finally, write down next to each one what you do when you are angry in such a situation.

Include your physical responses as well as what you do and say, discuss your list with your partner.

Now find a near and dear one with whom you may sit and work, to see if you can think of an alternative assertive response to each situation, or when ever the

Trigger is pulled.. what can you do instead..

Please do share your feedback of the same...

May your day be filled with inspiration and passion!

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A Boeing 747's wing span is longer than the Wright brother's first flight.(the Wright brother's invented the airplane)


There are as many chickens on earth as there are humans.


One type of hummingbird weighs less than a penny


The word "set " has the most number of definitions in the English language;192


Slugs have four noses


Sharks can live up to 100 years


Mosquitos are more attracted to the color blue than any other color.


Kangaroos can't walk backwards


About 75 acres of pizza are eaten in in the U.S. Everyday


The largest recorded snowflake was 15in wide and 8in thick. It fell in Montana in 1887


The tip of a bullwhip moves so fast that the sound it makes is actually a tiny sonic boom.


Former president Bill Clinton only sent 2 emails in his entire 8 year presidency


Koalas and humans are the only animals that have finger prints


There are 200,000,000 insects for every one human


It takes more calories to eat a piece of celery than the celery had in it to begin with.


The world's largest Montessori school is in India, with 26,312 students in 2002


Octopus have three hearts


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1 in 2,000,000,000 people will live to be 116 or old


The body has 2-3 million sweat glands


Sperm whales have the biggest brains; 20 lbs


Tiger shark embroyos fight each other in their mother's womb. The survivor is born.


Most cats are left pawed


250 people have fallen off the Leaning Tower of Pisa


A Blue whale's tongue weighs more than an elephant


You use 14 muscles to smile and 43 to frown. Keep Smiling!


Bamboo can grow up to 3 ft in 24 hours


An eyeball weighs about 1 ounce


Bone is five times stronger than steel.

Look up your birthday

January 01 - 09 ~ Dog
January 10 - 24 ~ Mouse
January 25 - 31 ~ Lion
February 01 - 05 ~ Cat
February 06 - 14 ~ Dove
February 15 - 21 ~ Turtle
February 22 - 28 ~ Panther
March 01 - 12 ~ Monkey
March 13 - 15 ~ Lion
March 16 - 23 ~ Mouse
March 24 - 31 ~ Cat
April 01 - 03 ~ Dog
April 04 - 14 ~ Panther
April 15 - 26 ~ Mouse
April 27 - 30 ~ Turtle
May 01 - 13 ~ Monkey
May 14 - 21 ~ Dove
May 22 - 31 ~ Lion
June 01 - 03 ~ Mouse
June 04 - 14 ~ Turtle
June 15 - 20 ~ Dog
June 21 - 24 ~ Monkey
June 25 - 30 ~ Cat
July 01 - 09 ~ Mouse
July 10 - 15 ~ Dog
July 16 - 26 ~ Dove
July 27 - 31 ~ Cat
August 01 - 15 ~ Monkey
August 16 - 25 ~ Mouse
August 26 - 31 ~ Turtle
September 01 - 14 ~ Dove
September 15 - 27 ~ Cat
September 28 - 30 ~ Dog
October 01 - 15 ~ Monkey
October 16 - 27 ~ Turtle
October 28 - 31 ~ Panther
November 01 - 16 ~ Lion
November 17 - 30 ~ Cat
December 01 - 16 ~ Dog
December 17 - 25 ~ Monkey
December 26 - 31 ~ Dove


If you are a Dog : A very loyal and sweet person. Your loyalty can never be
doubted. You are quite honest and sincere when it comes to your attitude towards
working. You are a very simple person, indeed. Absolutely hassle free, humble
and down-to-earth! ! That explains the reason why your friends cling on to you!
You have a good taste for clothes. If your wardrobe is not updated with what is
trendy, you sure are depressed. Popular and easy-going. You have a little group
of dignified friends, all of them being quality-personified .

If you are a Mouse : Always up to some sort of a mischief! The mischievous gleam
in your eyes is what makes you so cute and attractive to everyone. You are an
extremely fun-to-be-with kind of person. No wonder people seek for your company
and look forward to include you for all get-together' s. However, you are
sensitive which is a drawback. People need to select their words while talking
to you. If someone tries to fiddle around and play with words while dealing with
you, it is enough to invite your wrath. God bless the person then!

If you are a Lion: Quite contradictory to your name, you are a peace loving
person. You best try to avoid a situation wherein you are required to fight. An
outdoor person, you dislike sitting at one place for a long duration. You are a
born leader, and have it in you how to tactfully derive work from people. You
love being loved, and when you receive your share of limelight from someone, you
are all theirs!!!! Well, well... hence some people could even take an advantage,
flatter you to the maximum and get their work done. So be careful.....

If you are a Cat : An extremely lovable, adorable person, sometimes shy, with a
passion for quick wit. At times, you prefer quietness. You love exploring
various things and going into depth of each thing. Under normal circumstances
you're cool but when given a reason to, you are like a volcano waiting to erupt.
You're a fashion bird. People look forward to you as an icon associated with
fashion. Basically, you mingle along freely but don't like talking much to
strangers. People feel very easy in your company. You observe care in choosing
your friends.

If you are a Turtle : You are near to perfect and nice at heart. The examples of
your kindness are always circulated in groups of people. You, too, love peace.
You wouldn't like to retaliate even to a person who is in the wrong. You are
loved due to this. You do not wish to talk behind one's back. People love the
way you always treat them. You can give, give and give love, and the best part
is that you do not expect it back in return. You are generous enough. Seeing
things in a practical light is what remains the best trait of you guys.

If you are a Dove : You symbolize a very happy-go-lucky approach in life.
Whatever the surroundings may be, grim or cheerful, you remain unaffected. In
fact, you spread cheer wherever you go. You are the leader of your group of
friends and good at consoling people in their times of need. You dislike
hypocrisy and tend to shirk away from hypocrites. They can never be in your good
books, no matter what. You are very methodical and organized in your work. No
amount of mess, hence, can ever encompass you. Beware, it is easy for you to
fall in love....

If you are a Panther : You are mysterious. You are someone who can handle
pressure with ease, and can handle any atmosphere without going berserk. You can
be mean at times, and love to gossip with your selected group. Very prim and
proper. You like all situations and things to be in the way you desire, which,
sometimes is not possible. As a result, you may lose out in some relationships.
But otherwise, you love to help people out from difficult and tight spots when
they really need you.

If you are a Monkey : Very impatient and hyper!!! You want things to be done as
quick as possible. At heart, you are quite simple and love if you are the center
of attraction. That way, you people are unique. You would like to keep yourself
safe from all the angles. Shall your name be dragged or featured in any sort of
a controversy, you then go all panicky. Therefore, you take your precautions
from the very beginning. When you foresee anything wrong, your sixth sense is
what saves you from falling in traps. Quite a money minded bunch you people
are!!